Guilt
I know what I want to say no to, but I feel guilty saying it.
We can examine what the guilt is protecting, what responsibility is actually yours and what happens when discomfort is mistaken for wrongdoing.
Relationship Boundaries
Relationship boundaries get harder when the relationship matters.
A private 90-minute conversation about expectations, guilt, responsibility, access and what needs to change without pretending the answer is always to stay or leave.
Boundaries
A boundary begins with what you will do and what you will no longer carry.
Some relationship problems are really expectation problems. You keep saying yes when you mean no. Another person's reaction starts determining your decisions. A role you accepted years ago no longer fits, but changing it feels selfish or disruptive.
We can slow the pattern down and look at what is actually happening, what you control, what belongs to the other person and what a clearer boundary would require from you.
What We Can Explore
Setting boundaries in relationships usually becomes real at the point of consequence.
The conversation can focus on a partner, family member, friend, colleague or another relationship where expectations and responsibility have become unclear.
Access
Someone expects more access to me than I want to give.
We can talk about time, communication, emotional availability and the practical form a boundary would take.
Responsibility
I keep carrying problems that belong to someone else.
We can separate care from responsibility and look at where helping has turned into taking ownership of another adult's choices.
Change
The relationship worked before I changed.
Major personal or spiritual change can alter old dynamics. We can look at what still works, what no longer does and what you want to ask for now.
What I Bring
Clear expectations matter because relationships have real consequences.
Nearly three decades in business taught me that unclear expectations eventually become practical problems. My near-death experience also changed the questions I was asking about time, identity and what I was willing to carry.
I bring that practical lens into relationship conversations. The goal is not to diagnose another person or give you a script that guarantees a reaction. It is to get clearer about your own responsibility, choices and limits.
- Focus
- Your choices and boundaries
- Format
- One focused conversation
- Boundary
- Not couples therapy
Before You Book
Relationship boundaries are not the same as controlling someone else.
A Private Session can help you examine what you want to change and what you control. It is not couples counselling or a substitute for safety support.
01
Is this couples counselling?
No. The session is with you and focuses on your perspective, choices, expectations and boundaries. It is not couples therapy or psychotherapy.
02
Will Lorri tell me to end the relationship?
No. I can challenge assumptions and help you examine the consequences of different choices, but the decision remains yours.
03
Can I bring a family, friendship or work relationship?
Yes. The same questions about expectations, access, responsibility and limits can show up across many kinds of relationships.
04
What if the other person ignores my boundary?
We can look at what you control, what consequence or change is actually available to you and where your responsibility ends.
05
What if the relationship is abusive or I am unsafe?
A Private Session is not domestic-violence intervention or crisis support. If you are unsafe or at risk, use an appropriate local emergency, legal, shelter or specialized support service.
Private Sessions
Bring the question you actually have.
Every topic page leads to the same Private Session: 90 minutes, virtual, $149 CAD + applicable tax. Booking is managed through a free member account. Create or sign in to your account, verify your email, then continue in Private Sessions to review tax, pay and choose an available time.
- Length
- 90 minutes
- Format
- Private virtual session
- Price
- $149 CAD + applicable tax